One of the Sunday School classes here is mostly parents and when they were asked what they wanted to study this year, they made a list of topics that impacted their kids. The idea was the parents wanted to learn what the Bible said about issues kids were facing these days. I suppose on the surface, that’s cool. I’m glad they care about the Bible and their kids.
But swearing? I think of all the issues I hear youth talk about. They’re dealing with family stuff like being gone every other weekend to the other parent’s and missingthings they want to do because of it. There’s the usual teen pregnancy, teen suicide, cutting, drinking, sex issues and gossip pains. Most don’t read the Bible because they don’t know the background so the stories don’t make sense, i.e. what’s a Pharisee? And I can blame our early childhood education or the curriculum but really it’s the breakdown of Biblical literacy. Their parents obviously don’t have an intimate relationship with Scripture if they need a class and discussion on what the Bible says about swearing.
I cringe at telling kids not to swear. Yeah, potty mouths aren’t so attractive. There’s a great Danielson song about that. But my goal as a youth worker in a church is to get kids to talk. If they finally open up and start to share about their soul and their lives, I’m supposed to stop them if they use an F bomb? I feel like that’s the equivalent of saying “Talk, but please censor yourself so you don’t offend me.”
I listen to parents at volleyball games complain about the lack of playing time their kids get. The parents blame it on not having the right last name in a little town and they say the coach is showing favoritism. I watch volleyball at every level in town and I don’t know how a parent can miss the fact that her kid serves the volleyball into the net every freaking time and the kid with the right last name who just plays because she’s a suck up has a serve that consistently skims the net with a sneaky little spin. You wanna think about toxic talk from kids? What about blaming the coach when you don’t get to play and slandering the starter who gets to play ahead of you, even when she’s earned it?
These parents are on the right track. Kids and teens learn from their adult role models. But to just look at the swears like the words themselves are the problem? F that S. 😉